Meet the Undateables: Lisa and Demar

Each week, we take two New Yorkers who swear they’re totally undateable, and put our matchmaking skills to the test

Will Gleason
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Photograph: Ann Sullivan

Why they’re single:
Lisa: She doesn’t prioritize dating.
Demar: He’s looking for a genuine connection but just hasn’t met the right person.

Ideal date:
Lisa: Dinner and a good comedy show
Demar: Dinner and drinks

THE DATE

First impression
Lisa: “I thought he was really handsome, but I was taller than him in heels, which I didn’t care for. He was really intelligent and engaging. He seemed very smart.”
Demar: “I got there late and a little frazzled, but he was super nice and not at all pissed off. He was cute and charming and the only person I’ve dated who’s been taller than me.”

Chemistry
Lisa: “I felt like he acted a bit younger than his age. He was mature about a lot of things, but, just socially, he seemed like he was in a bit of a younger stage in his life.”
Demar: “I got more of a friends vibe. She was very inquisitive. She asked a lot of good follow-up questions. If there had been an attraction, it would have been a great first date.”

Awkward Moment
Lisa: “I asked him what he thought was the appropriate time to say ‘I love you’ to someone, and he said a month and a half. I was like, Woah, buddy. I’d say closer to six months.”
Demar: “I yawned a couple of times toward the end of the night, and she was like: ‘You’re the first person to ever yawn on a date with me.’ I wasn’t bored—it was just getting late.”

Afterward
Lisa: “He asked me if I would go on a second date with someone if he was, like, a six out of 10. I couldn’t tell if he was asking about us or just in general. I said no.”
Demar: “We hugged goodbye and then both got cabs. We didn’t exchange numbers, and I don’t think I’ll see her again. The night kind of felt like talking to an old friend.”

Verdict
Lisa: ♥ "I had no expectations about how it might go, and it went fine. It turned out to be pretty okay. It could have been worse. It just didn’t quite feel romantic.”
Demar: ♥ “The night wasn’t awkward in any sense. The food was good; the restaurant was great. I kind of want to go back to hang out with the bartender.”

Our daters went to Gupshup (115 East 18th St, 212-518-7313)

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Best date ideas in NYC

  • Drinking

Taste great whiskey and learn some fascinating facts at Great Jones Distilling Co., which opened to the public in 2021 as Manhattan's first and only legal whiskey distillery in over 100 years. The 28,000 square-foot venue operates as a fully functioning distillery with a tasting room and several drinking and dining venues, including an underground speakeasy and a full restaurant. 

Couples can book several different experiences, including a tour detailing the whiskey-making process ($35), a culinary cocktail pairing experience ($145) and a hands-on mixology class ($110). 

  • Lower East Side

Ye’s Apothecary ranks as one of New York City’s best date spots. Exceedingly pretty with has an air of speakeasy about it, the venue will turn "getting to know you" into a little more. Descend and make a sharp right: a cinematic bar is over your shoulder, set with gleaming emerald tiles and a few seats facing illuminated shelves as studied as a still life. The expanse of the long, jewel-toned venue is to the left, where elegant light fixtures float above banquettes and candlelit, marble tables.

It’s all very intimate, both as a euphemism for manageably tight and as a mood. 

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  • Health and beauty
  • Spas

Maybe this one isn't for a first date. But once you are more comfortable with your significant other, get your sweat on at a sauna or relax in a lantern-lit pool together.

Some local spas offer or even specialize in couples massages for a romantic date option. NYC spas range from affordable to all-out luxurious. Treat yourself to a pampering at one of these spas — you two deserve it.

  • Sex and dating
  • Sex & Dating

How about a date that has been set up for you? The Metropolitan Museum of Art's beloved "Date Nights" give visitors an opportunity to become acquainted with artwork with informal drop-in gallery chats, the chance to listen in on gorgeous live music and sip on yummy cocktails.

"Date Nights" are held every Friday and Saturday nights in the American Wing Café from 5pm to 9pm. Even better, date nights come with museum admission, which is always pay-what-you-wish for New York State residents and NY, NJ, and CT students with valid ID. And this time, advance tickets are not required. 

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The low-key dazzling Speakeasy Magick brings close-up magic table by table throughout a dark speakeasy where drinks flow and tricks await. 

Hosted by Todd Robbins (Play Dead), who specializes in mild carnival-sideshow shocks, Speakeasy Magick is a moveable feast of legerdemain. Audience members are visited at their tables by a series of performers in turn.

Robbins describes this as “magic speed dating.” One might also think of it as tricking: an illusion of intimacy, a satisfying climax, and off they go into the night.

  • Things to do
  • City Life

Board a Classic Harbor Line cruise for a romantic evening on the '20s-style Yacht Manhattan—made extra cozy with ample pillows and corner tables. Order a glass of champagne to sip as you pass the amazing One World Trade tower, sailboats gliding peacefully, and Jersey City's many high rises. As the sun dips lower in the sky, the light bounces off different buildings, especially the Empire State Building, which seem to glow like a torch.

You can reserve your trip here or call the Classic Harbor Line NYC phone number (212) 627-1825. Make it a double date to get a price break on tickets.

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  • Art
  • Art

Sure, those selfies on your phone are cute, but take things to the next level with professional selfies at the new FotoLab. It's NYC's first self portrait photography studio, and it makes for a super fun date. 

At this Chelsea spot, you and your sweetie can cozy up in the studio to get some adorable photos together. There's music pumping through the studio, and you can bring some props (or a pet), so even if you're camera shy, you'll feel totally comfortable.

Maybe you'll even take things to a major next step and save this photo for a holiday card together.

  • French
  • Greenwich Village
  • price 3 of 4

A West Village institution with classy decor, Minetta Tavern serves up that famous burger that’s on your bucket list. After your splurge, turn things up a notch at Marie’s Crisis Café, the iconic piano bar down the street. You can listen to some show tunes and join in the singing once you’ve got a few drinks in you. Who knows, maybe you and your date will harmonize!

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  • Sports and fitness
  • Sports & Fitness

Go ahead and make a racket because ping pod pods—appropriately called PingPod—are now open across NYC. They're open 24/7, so whether you're looking for a daytime date or a late-night option, you can head to a PingPod location of your choice for some good old-fashioned fun. 

If your date can't volley some jokes while gently hitting a plastic ball across the table, well, maybe that's a foul.

  • Nightlife
  • Nightlife
  • Lower East Side

Drop your inhibitions at this seductive, throwback lounge. Cheeky performers will leave you and your date laughing, curious and maybe a bit aroused. From your table by the stage (the space is small enough that there’s not really a bad seat in the house) expect the unexpected as aerial performers, singers, comedians, dancers and sexily clad lads and ladies perform circus and sideshow tricks. You’ll be hard-pressed to find anything like it in the Lower East Side—or anywhere else. Book tickets here.

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