Adult nights out in London

The big one. The world’s largest fetish and fantasy club, started in 1990, a visit to Torture Garden (affectionately referred to as TG) is considered a rite of passage for those wishing to explore and expand their sexual horizons. The stage shows are the stuff of lewd legend: Dita von Teese made her UK debut at TG; there are frequently hardcore body modification and manipulation demonstrations featuring everything from extreme piercings to contortion to people being suspended from ropes attached to hooks poked through their skin; and it’s not uncommon to see fireworks been set off from performers’ orifices, paint and milk being shot out of vaginas, and lasers shining from the bumhole of a trapeze artist. Top class alternative adult entertainment in spades.

A queer techno rave and sex party, Klub Verboten takes inspiration from the Berlin fetish scene. Creating an environment that centres respect and consent, their community offers BDSM practice, immersive experiences, and platforms emerging artists – all soundtracked to some killer underground electronic music. Make sure you read up on the rules before you go – cross any lines and you'll be kicked out of the Klub. 

Killing Kittens events take their name from the saying that 'Every time you masturbate, god kills a kitten.' If that were true, the RSPCA would have shut down KK’s decadent, hedonistic sex parties a long time ago, as a whole lot of tugging and rubbing goes on at them – plus a great deal of sucking, licking, flicking, moaning, groaning, pumping, humping, and people going down on each other goes down, too. If you want to attend, you have to apply for approval before you can buy a ticket. The club claim that they 'don’t want supermodels – just people who take care of themselves' in order to maintain an exclusive, indulgent, 'Eyes Wide Shut'-type atmosphere (and attempt to weed out weirdos). 


If meeting your next partner at a rave is a dream scenario for you, then you need to get down to Joyride. The south London party was started as a way to both throw a party and build a community linked by a passion for celebrating sexual expression, queerness and rave culture. Each month, the Joyride crew take over Corsica Studios for a day rave that’s an empowering force to experience. Dress up in your best (and most creative) fetish and kink 'fits to join the party, which boasts killer line-ups of DJs and artists – who often identify as queer and/or femme. Away from the dancefloor, you’ll find two playrooms filled with kink furniture and sex machines and, in one, pieces created by Soho House interior designer Domnhall Nolan. The group also host sex-positive social events outside of the main parties that take the form of workshops, markets, performances and more.

Riot Party isn’t just about getting freaky – it’s also about making new connections and strengthening the queer community. Sure, there’s a playroom, but there’s also a bunch of other activities you can take part in, which vary from party to party but can include costume contests, life drawing, a queer market and more. There’s also quiet spaces at most events, where you can hang out and chat to your new mates in peace. The POC and sex worker-led sex positive rave also has an outpost in Manchester, should you find yourself in need of a night out up north.

The Fox Den offers intimate, approachable, sex-positive events. From 24-guest hedonistic dinner parties (complete with a four-course meal cooked by a private chef and after-dinner ‘play’ for dessert), to live music and performance, there’s something for everyone – and it’s a great option for beginners to the scene. Most events are for members only, but membership is free, although you need to be approved by the organisation. 

With spanking benches and strip shows, bondage beds and Shibari artists who tie up guests using Japanese rope bondage, One Night has been on London’s kink scene since 2019. Taking place at Inanna Studio, an intimate private sex dungeon in north London, the events centre completely on the female experience. The parties were 'born out of a love of sexual spaces, but disdain for entitled men', meaning this is a safe space for all cis women, trans women, and non-binary people who are exploring their femininity. 

Get your rocks off while listening to rock. Or industrial, punk, metal, 80s, alternative anthems – anything but the standard fetish club staples of hard house and funk. Club Antichrist is an extremely friendly kink, dancing and live music event that’s fiercely and loyally loved by the young and smiley crowd it attracts. It features everything from live bands and performers ranging from the silly (Smurf burlesque) to the stunning (fire hula hooping, magicians, bellydancing with swords) to the shocking (catheter shows, a chap wearing a dead swan on his back, and a bloke being covered in cold vegetable soup and fisted before having certain parts of his anatomy sewn together with a needle and thread). There’s a dungeon and play areas; a couples’ darkroom; happy hours at the bar; ushers carrying trays of free sweets, condoms and lube; and a themed photobooth. If you find some other fetish clubs a bit serious or snooty, Antichrist is the antidote. If you’ve tried other fetish clubs and found them a bit stuck-up, then you’ll find the antidote at Antichrist – a night that’s informal while packing in a very fun party vibe.