This past summer Time Out Hong Kong asked you about online dating. We wanted to hear from all of our readers – single, taken, straight, gay, local, expat and everyone in between and beyond – about your first-hand experiences, views on dating culture in this city and what the current landscape looks like. Helped by the impressive – and greatly appreciated – response from our audience, this is what we found.
*To respect the privacy of our respondents, all names have been changed.
What's your relationship status?
If you're using or have used dating apps, what is/was your intention?
Do you agree that Hong Kong is a difficult city to date in?
40.7% Disagree, 59.3% Agree.
Nick, 25 -29 / Local / Single: "For gays, most people remain very discreet about their sexuality and it's hard to meet people through work. Unless you go to the club, it's hard to meet people."
Karoline, 25-29 / International / Single: "As an expat from a western country, I tend to gravitate towards guys from similar cultural backgrounds. These guys are generally in Hong Kong for a short time and not looking for anything serious. They also have an inflated sense of self because they are quite successful, having left their homes and moved abroad. But that seems to translate into oversized ego."
Top 3 most popular dating apps
Coffee Meets Bagel: The program is carefully selected according to your requirements, and 20 recommended objects are defined every day.
Tinder: The user interface is simple, top pick for a good time
Bumble: Designed for women, after you match with someone, the girl has to initiate the conversation.
Tinder is one of the most popular dating platforms in the world. The platform is easy to use, has lots of active users and it's also very popular in Hong Kong – over 1/3 of our respondents use Tinder. Yet despite the app's popularity in our city, in 2015 Hong Kong was named to have the world's most unattractive Tinder pools.
Hong Kong has been dubbed as one of the least attractive tinder pools in the world, thoughts?
“I love the dating pool in Hong Kong. It’s constantly changing. People of all colours and flavours are coming and going so it never gets dull”. - Mark, 30-34 / International, In a relationship
"I wouldn’t say it’s the least attractive. A lot of really great-looking guys but no personalities or feelings. It’s like I’m meeting the same person over and over again." - Katie, 18 - 24, Local-international, single
"Clearly people who say ‘unattractive’ haven’t lived in other countries. I feel Hong Kong offers a good mix of potential Tinder swipes." - Max, 35 - 39, International, Single
"Least attractive, not based on physical appearance but rather the lack of responsiveness." - Carlos, 30 -34, In a relationship
"I'm not surprised, attractive personalities seem to have no problem meeting people in the first place. People who use the app appear to be socially inept, and those in the middle are usually skeptical or too proud to use dating apps." - Anna, 30 - 34, Local-international, In a relationship
How likely are you to exchange numbers or meet up with someone you’ve been chatting with?
Any dating experiences or opinions you’d like to share with us?
“I went on a date once with this guy I met on Tinder, and he showed up wearing Tae Kwan Do outfit. He’s a Westerner and told me he loves Chinese culture…” – Alisa, 18-24, Local born and raised, In relationship
“Everyone seems to be looking for a good time only, especially for expats who plan to be here for one to two years. They treat Hong Kong like an Asian adventure, but for those of us who call Hong Kong home and are looking for something a bit more permanent, we don’t like feeling like we’re disposeable.” – Cecilia, 25 - 29, Local Single
“I met the one here and even have a little love child running around.” – Graham, 30-34, International, In a relationship
Conclusion
Dating apps are the product of modern society’s fast-food culture. It's tempting to think the arrival of these apps would turn the dating scene into a marketplace where singles could shop for their perfect match, but the reality is a bit more nuanced than that. Although dating apps make meeting people easier by expanding the reach of one's social networks, it doesn't change the underlying challenges people face in dating.
